There are many things to consider when starting a home
business. What type of home business will you start? What equipment, inventory
or supplies will you need? Who will your potential customers and clients be? Who
will be your primary competition? However, one question few women tend to think
about is: Will my home business be good for our marriage?
The answer depends on you and your approach to home
business. You can count on your business changing your life to some extent.
It'll add duties to your day, leave you with less time for yourself and your
family, and may change your priorities. But does that mean it'll be negative for
your marriage? We asked some seasoned home-based working moms and got some
surprising answers.
"My home business has had a very positive effect on my marriage," says Diana Ennen, owner
of
VirtualWordPublishing.com. "When my husband arrives home from work, I can't
wait to share some of the successes of the day. Also, I can contribute so much
more to the family income. That takes an enormous pressure off us."
Laurie Hurley, owner of
HomeTutoringBusiness.com adds, "We're more in tune with each other now that I work from home. It's been very good for our
marriage."
Another home based business owner shared that working at home has actually brought her
and her husband closer as a family. "We bounce business ideas off each other,
and everyone--including our three children--feels like it's their business as
well," says Julie Held, who runs a Stuff A Friend business.
However, along with the positive, there are some negative ways a home business can impact your marriage.
A very common mistake many people make is putting their marriage on autopilot. The truth is, no matter the stage, marriages need nurturing, affection and
attention.
"I allowed my business to take over my life, and I neglected my family and my
home," says Darlene Hull, owner of
Mom-Defrazzler.com. "My husband was very patient through it all, and that
made me really wake up. Now I make sure I'm connecting in a meaningful way to my
husband and kids every day."
Some women even credit their home businesses for saving their marriages. Take Janna
Dawson, owner of
HighDesertBandB.com, for instance. She says, "We were on divorce road when I
started my home business. Now we're conscious of where we need to improve
because of things we’ve learned through my business self-development programs. I
think we're happier now than when we first married."
So how can you ensure a happy marriage and a successful home business? Take some tips from home based businesswomen who are
making it work:
- Have the same goals for your family, your marriage and your future
together. And never let your spouse feel second to the business.
- Set specific work hours, and be diligent about keeping those boundaries
intact.
- Prioritize family time and coordinate activities with your spouse on a
family calendar.
- Outsource when needed. Hire a house cleaner, nanny or an assistant.
- Talk about everything and discuss your options.
- When you're with your spouse or kids, be 100 percent with them. When
you're working, focus 100 percent on your work.
Regardless of what stage your home business is in, sit down
with your spouse to discuss these topics. It could help you avoid significant
conflicts in the future. And maybe your home business will help make your
marriage even stronger.